You must become uncomfortable, confused, and scared!

Travis Knowlton LCSW
3 min readJun 10, 2024

If you want to change...

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Why are these the perfect states of mind to create change?

Driving has become second nature to you. You drive on the right side of the road, follow speed limits, and know what all the lines and signs on the roadway mean. Driving has become second nature to the point that you can do it with extreme ease.

You now journey to a foreign land and have no idea what the road signs mean, why the yellow and white lines in the road are so different, and why everyone is driving on the wrong side of the road.

You struggle for a bit, but soon, you become accustomed to this new approach to driving, and you slowly acquire the necessary skills to drive in this new place.

This is no different when building new cognitive and behavioral habits.

Our views, worldviews, and religious beliefs lead us down a road of certainty and comfortability. This comfort can lead to complacency and ignorance of our undoing.

Here is a good example: you are in a new relationship, and your partners verbalize that you have some toxic traits.

This realization usually creates tension, such as arguing, sarcasm, and resentment, and creates a sensation of doubling down on the behavior because…



Travis Knowlton LCSW

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