How did you love?

Travis Knowlton
2 min readNov 29, 2021
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Definitely inspired by the Shinedown song.

Here is the official music video link:

Internationally acclaimed, author, and writer brownie ware has done amazing research. She worked In palliative care and found 5 regrets that people have on their deathbed.

1. I wish I lived my true life, not what others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish I had let myself be happier.

Here is the link to her site:

Combining these to references, we see that what we leave behind is what we reflect upon.

When reviewing all the world’s main religions, we see a common thread: love thy neighbor. This appears to be a lot harder on the surface, but I believe the opposite.

If we actually focus upon our demise and not brush it off for a distant future to handle, we see it as not a dark and gloomy topic or perspective. If anything, it can be enlightening and lift us from a burden.

We need not regret, for those journeys brought us to the spot we and those we have encountered are at today. Though we might view some of these experiences as good or bad, the very concept will change with time and perspective. Be free in yourself, for you know not what gifts you have bestowed.

-If they wrote a book on your life, would anyone read it?

-For you see coal, but do you not know you have gifted a diamond?

We can wrap our days with teachings of world religion and costly signaling. Days and hours and years and months of worship. It acts that matter! Even if there is no belief in a Supreme being, the idea to leave behind better than you received is a cornerstone of a good and decent person.

So be good, help thy neighbor. Seek not only to help but inspire the soul of those around you. No matter the belief, we come from the same God with the same consistent tenant of love.

For when the final hour chimes will you say: Gee! I’m glad I did!


Gee, I wish I had.

love those around you and inspire those that accompany you on this giant space rock, for that is the calling of the body, the mind, and the soul.

-Travis Knowlton

Travis Knowlton

I'm a husband, father, veteran, and psychotherapists that is here to enjoy and share!